That’s right, I said it. God does not love everyone the same, and this is a good thing. “But God is no respecter of persons” (Acts 10:34 KJV). And He isn’t. The prince nor the pauper can offer God anything more than a receptive and obedient heart. He does not love any one person more than another, but as a Father He does love on us uniquely.

I know you don’t want to believe that God loves us differently. But that’s because you think it must mean that either His love is conditional or that the gaps in your character could possibly warrant less of His love.

Permit me to reaffirm His love for you so we can move on to why GOD DOES NOT LOVE EVERYONE THE SAME is a good thing.

God loves you completely. If you read your bible three times a day for 30 days and memorize half of the New Testament, He will not love you any more than He does at this moment. God is immutable. He does not change, and the same is true of His love.

For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in Him shall not prosper but have everlasting life.   John 3:16: one of the first scriptures I learned as a child. AKA – Heaven’s Password. But this is what the scripture says between the lines: For God so loved YOU, that He gave His only begotten son and would have done so even if YOU were the only one in the world.

Moving on to the other good part-

If God loved us all the same that would mean that there was nothing defining or distinguishing between you and me. Like widgets on a factory line, generic in form and fashion; easily replicated, duplicated. It would mean that we were all replaceable, expendable, and non-essential to Him; like pawns in a chess game. But that’s not how He sees you. He aches to have intimate time with you. He longs to be gracious to you; He rises up to show you His compassion (Isaiah 30:18) because you matter to Him. If we were all the same in His heart, Jesus would not have wept when Lazarus died. If we were all the same in His eyes, God would not have bothered to give you your one-of-a-kind fingerprints.   You are irreplaceable, indispensable, and mission-critical to Him and the Kingdom. You’re a prototype. He broke the mold with you. There will never be another you.

In my day job, one of my responsibilities is to administer progressive discipline and/or counseling, as necessary, on behalf of my organization. A few times, employees have commented that they thought the corrective action was harsh in comparison to similar situations with other employees. After I tell them that I’m not discussing other employees with them, I then tell them that I am privy to more details than they. And with that information, I attempt to make decisions in the best interest of the organization.

What I will tell you that I can’t tell them is… sometimes the action isn’t always equitable. Sometimes someone who should be fired gets probation. Sometimes someone who should only get a slap on the wrist gets an escort out the front door. Do you need help carrying that box? Not because I like one employee more than another, but because I have assessed the situation— the frequency of the infraction, the operational impact, any legal consequences, the capacity or aptitude of the individual. I’ve also discerned the intent, the attitude, and the heart of the person. Similarly, when recognizing and rewarding employees, I have to determine what will be most appreciated, what is more likely to motivate and engage them, or if the employee is indeed ready for increased responsibility.   The corporate world calls it Situational Leadership.

Situational Leadership is a God principle.

Because you are uniquely different, having a uniquely different experience, background, family, hurt, purpose and destiny, God in His infinite wisdom and compassion gauges His own expectations of you. In His mercy, He chooses to engage you based on the current condition of your heart. He does not compare you to others.

He understands that it may take you a minute to accept Him as a Father if your biological father abandoned the family before you could walk. God understands that you may have a hard time giving if you grew up living hand-to-mouth. God understands that you may have a hard time believing that He wants to take care of you if you have had to take care of others all your life. Jesus knows why you’re angry. He knows why you haven’t met that special one yet. He knows -better than you – how your experiences have created stumbling blocks and barriers in your walk with Him.

Jesus has assessed your situation. He has taken into consideration the frequency of the infractions, the impact, and consequences; your capacity and aptitude to process it through His lens. He knows your heart (thoughts and fears) (Isaiah 139). He has determined whether you’re ready, willing and able to carry the blessing that He set aside for you –before the foundation of the earth.

And in His knowing, He can apply the appropriate corrective action on your behalf, so that He can give you the kingdom (Luke 12:32). Because He loves you uniquely, you got community service when you should have gone to jail. Because He loves on you differently, the university let you retake that test when you should have been expelled. Because Jesus loves you according to your specialty status with Him, you got the job over the more qualified candidate; the breathalyzer malfunctioned; you walked away from that crash without a scratch; your spouse finally chose you over that vice.

Now, aren’t you glad that Jesus doesn’t love you the same as everyone?

O Lord, you have searched me and known me!You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar.You search out my path and my lying down
and are acquainted with all my ways.Even before a word is on my tongue,
behold, O Lord, you know it altogether.You hem me in, behind and before,
and lay your hand upon me.Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
it is high; I cannot attain it.Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence?If I ascend to heaven, you are there!
  If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!If I take the wings of the morning
    and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, 10 even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me. 11 If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,
    and the light about me be night,”  12 even the darkness is not dark to you;
 the night is bright as the day,
 for darkness is as light with you. 13 For you formed my inward parts;
  you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. 14  I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.[a]
Wonderful are your works;   my soul knows it very well. 15 My frame was not hidden from you,
when I was being made in secret,
    intricately woven in the depths of the earth. 16 Your eyes saw my unformed substance;
in your book were written, every one of them,
 the days that were formed for me,
 when as yet there was none of them. Isaiah 139:1-16




  1. Approximately six years ago, after a 30 year professional career, I found myself looking for a position after I had just transferred to the Northern VA community. Needless to say, I was a bit un-nerved. I simply did not know how to proceed. Should I attempt to return to Hampton Roads in the hopes that my previous supervisor would re-hire me? Or, should I bite the bullet and begin a massive search for a position in an area that was completely un-familiar to me? The challenge for me was that after 30 years of service, almost all professional applications had to be submitted on-line. Trying to work a full 8 hour day and searching the internet, sometimes until midnight each evening, for 6 long, tedious months was a beast! I had exactly 6 months before my contract would expire. So, time was of the essence!

    I prayed as I worked and searched. I prayed fervently for God’s favor upon my life and my search. I stood strongly on the Ephesians 3:20 scripture, even when I was seemingly only able to declare His Word with a whisper! It was a very intimidating process, waiting and searching!

    So, I decided to pray a specific prayer to the Lord. Within 6 months, I had submitted 60 professional applications on-line to various agencies within the DC, Northern VA, and MD network. My prayer consisted of the following request: “Lord, I do not want to get lost traveling all over the DC metropolitan area interviewing with companies, who will not have any serious intent in hiring me. Please do not allow me to have to endure that type of rigor, and loss of physical energy, if the intent is not an honest one. Only allow the calls to come that are credible.”

    I became a bit concerned after the 6 month period seemed to be coming to a close and I had not had 1 credible offer for an interview. One week before my contract was to expire, I was offered an interview in Annapolis. I interviewed on the very last day of my contract in VA and was offered the position the very next day in MD!

    I understand that 60 applicants had applied. I was selected! Only one other school system called me for an interview the very day that I was accepting the Annapolis position. The Lord, in His mercy and grace, spared me the emotional stress and strain of interviewing in a market that had just declared that the Nation was in a recession!

    Oh, how He loves me…Oh how He expressed His love for me!!! I am still grateful today…every time I reflect upon His faithfulness and His love!


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