Gift-giving stresses me. Not because I don’t want to give, but the mental anguish of trying to pick the right gift. The kind of gift that makes you look forward to seeing me. The kind of gift that says, “I know you.” But after decades of shopping for the same people, I’m running out of ideas.

Take my parents, for example. They have just about everything they want and need. And if they don’t, it’s because they can’t afford it. Which means, I can’t either. So what do you get someone who has everything (that they can afford)?

So, this past Christmas, I asked Holy Spirit to give me a few gift ideas to make my people light up. I heard the word “re-gift”.

Re-gift? Like, give them a gift previously given to me? A gift that I didn’t even want? C’mon God. You don’t strike me as the cheap type!

Re-gifting can be tricky. You have to make sure that nothing on the gift or about the gift reveals that it is a re-gift. You have to make sure that the original “gifter” or the new “giftee” do not know each other. And the re-gift should be something that could have been purchased in the previous week, not the previous decade. Most important, the re-gift can’t expose the obvious- that you don’t like it.

Re-gift, God? He replies.

“Re-gift my love.”

“Re-gift my mercy.”

“Re-gift my grace.”

“Re-gift my compassion.”

I smile. I have that warm-fuzzy feeling. He continues.

“Re-gift my joy.”

“Re-gift my peace.”

“Re-gift my forgiveness.”

Whew- cold, prickly sensation. Perceiving my clinched jaw, He says, “…and put a bow on it.”

That last one always gets me. It was a setup.

Suddenly, my mind is flooded with all the missed opportunities to show love, mercy, compassion, etc. Like the time I refused eye contact with the man begging for change. Or the last time I was on the train- how I put my purse in the seat so that no one would sit next to me. Or when I hit “DECLINE” when a “friend” who always has a problem called. Or when the employee who had a death in the family cried in my office. How should I comfort her? Is it appropriate to hug her? I respond my handing her a napkin. I was out of tissues.

Forgiveness seems like the hard part for many of us. But if you think about it, showing mercy, sharing joy, or giving people some of our time trips us up every day.   Missed opportunities. We perceive that forgiveness is harder to do- to give because its only necessary after someone has hurt or offended us. We feel something that’s hard to ignore.

And yet, we demonstrate ease, if you will, in ignoring the opportunity to give grace, joy, peace, and patience in the seemingly mundane things in life. We ignore the cleaning people in our office buildings (or homes). We ignore the teenage mom (to-be). We ignore the felon, desperately trying to re-enter society. We ignore Jesus’ prompting to be love, mercy, peace…


This spiritual ailment is not about you being selfish or self-absorbed. It’s not about you showing concern for a colleague or being approachable on the train. Far from it, Sweets. It’s about your ability- or inability- to receive from God.

If we struggle to show, let’s say- compassion, it’s because we have yet to receive Jesus’ compassion in full. You can replace ‘compassion’ with almost anything: joy, generosity, patience, kindness, forgiveness

Maybe this isn’t you. Maybe I’m the only one. So I will personalize it… to get you off the hook.

When I refuse to forgive, what I am saying in truth is that I believe that there are some things that are unforgivable- uncovered by His blood. Which means, I believe that there is some thing I have done or could possibly do that God would consider unforgivable.   Or, I’m simply suffering from a severe case of amnesia, having forgotten just how much I have been forgiven.

You can’t give what you don’t have. But you can have Jesus’ grace. You can have His peace. You can have God’s comfort, His friendship. All you have to do is receive it. Only then, can you share it; re-gift it.

So, in an attempt to get from under the hot stage lights, I say to God, “That’s nice, Lord. But I need something to put in a box.”

I think I heard Him laugh.

In closing, I challenge you to examine your heart. Ask God what gifts you are leaving on the table. Ask Him to make you aware of the opportunities around you to re-gift the attributes of His heart. And then, put a bow on it.


YOUR TURN. How did you re-gift Jesus this week?  Share with us in the COMMENT section below!

6 thoughts on “RE-GIFTING JESUS

  1. I think that I did not do so well in re-gifting Jesus this week. It was one of the most challenging weeks that I have had in a very long time. Situations at work appeared to be more chaotic than usual. A “friend” relationship seemed to head south – to the place of being un-redeemable. I have been recovering from a sprained knee that has challenged my ability to walk comfortably for long distances. My internal compass has been a bit shaky at best. So, when I examine the week and my responses to it, I come up short in the re-gifting of mercy, grace, and the “no strings attached form of forgiveness.”

    So, what does a girl do when she reflects upon this type of week? I think I need a bit of quiet time with just me and the Father – with a little worship music. Yes, to repent regarding my attitude in some areas, but to also place myself in a position to receive His gifts to me. I needed Him this past week… I need Him today…Everyday…to keep me balanced in who I am in and to Him.

    I need to be able to see me at the end of this week through His eyes and His un-conditional love. I know He is waiting to commune with me…to embrace me…and to re-assure me that all is well. After such a week as the one that has just passed, I need desperately to hear Him whisper words of comfort, affirmation, and peace!


  2. I really have to stop reading your blogs, because it is so not my desire to wake up only to be CONVICTED by your creativity in applying to Gospel to everyday life.
    Yes, I’m a big time “re-gift-er”!
    In fact I would suggest that any preacher who declares and proclaim gospel message is indeed too. I guess the quick and easy answer to your question today: How did you re-gift Jesus this week? Would be: When I preach on Sunday mornings and opened the door of the church.

    I was not an ardent fan of the old Seinfeld TV series as I am now that it’s in syndication. And those like me who watched the show must admit that much of its success was in its ability of popularizing various terms.
    Recently an episode dealt with what has now become a familiar term to most people: re-gifting.
    As you have so eloquently lifted to our thoughts – re-gifting is the practice of taking an item that you have received as a gift, giving it to someone else, and portraying it as something that you have “acquired” with only them in mind.
    Now for me it was the slew of wedding gifts that were left for me after my divorce. What a confession this is! For years I had gifts, some even still wrapped to share with others on their special day.
    Then there’s the annually beautifully wrapped fruitcake that my buddy Andre Wells and I exchange each year. Finding new ways to present to each other this 7 year old cake that neither of us like.
    But the real winner has to be the birthday card my friend bought me a couple years ago…I thought it was so nice that I scratched my name off the envelope and placed her name on it and gave/re-gifted it to her for her special day as well. Now re-signing the card and labeling the envelope has become “one” of our very own special birthday tradition.
    I think most of us probably have engaged in the practice of re-gifting. We may not want to admit it—especially to the person receiving the gift—because it can indicate for some a lack of appreciation for the gift we received and also reveals an attitude that may be less than thoughtful and generous.
    Because when we receive a gift that is exactly what we like and need, a gift of value that reflects the genuine love of the giver, we would never think of giving it away.

    For Christians Preachers however, one kind of re-gifting is not only good and proper—it’s essential and God-pleasing.
    This kind of re-gifting doesn’t show a lack of love for our flock; it is a clear demonstration of love for God and love for the souls of mankind. This kind of re-gifting does not happen because the gift is considered to be of little value. It happens precisely because the gift is priceless.

    The most precious of all gifts was given two thousand years ago in Bethlehem. The gift was so precious because the Giver came—not just to deliver it but to be that gift Himself.
    Daily I’m reminded that I deserved nothing from God except His displeasure and punishment, but He personally gave “ME” His only begotten Son to live, to die, and to conquer death.

    Then look at what the shepherds did with that gift? They gave it away. You could say they re-gifted. As soon as the Holy Spirit led them to believe that this little child was the long-promised Savior, they rushed to share the news with others.
    And since that time down through the age’s proclaimer of the Gospel of Jesus Christ have been re-gifting this very gospel.
    So yes! I re-gift what God has given me every time I stand to both proclaim and hear the gospel message in churches across the county.
    I proclaim my trust and faith in that gift every time I kneel at the altar to receive His body and blood.
    I too join the shepherds in giving that gift every time I invite others to share with me in worship, every time I tell friends and family about the hope that I have in Christ, every time I shape my words and actions to reflect the love that God gave me in my Savior.
    Yes, I’m a big time “re-gift-er”!


    1. I love it! You made a great point that I overlooked in my writing: Re-gifting Jesus “does not happen because the gift is considered to be of little value. It happens precisely because the gift is priceless.” Thank you, Donell!


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